Chrianna taught me: 5 lessons to learn from this ongoing drama
I’m convinced that Chrianna’s stardom and troubled relationship was an elaborate set up created by the universe to teach America a few lessons. Had they not both been famous, and had this tumultuous rollercoaster ride in the public eye, many people wouldn’t be aware of a number of social issues including the prevalence of domestic violence, particularly amongst the youth, and society’s reluctance to see a man as responsible for his own actions. While there are sooo many lessons to learn from this escapade here are the top five:
CELEBRITIES ARE REAL PEOPLE. They get coffee like us, they ride bikes like us, they take their kids to the zoo like us and they act irrationally – like us. Sometimes it hurts my heart the way people scrutinize celebrities and say things they’d never dare say to the average person’s face. RiRi was harshly criticized for admitting her feelings for her abusive ex, but we forget that it they were just Robyn and Chris from 125th & St. Nicholas – the entire scenario would’ve been EXACTLY THE SAME, except she’d have taken him back in less than three weeks instead of three years.
THE REBOUND NEVER WINS. It doesn’t matter if you’re the crowned prince of R&B or the crowned prince of England – when outsider force you to leave the one you really love because it “doesn’t look right”, the rebound relationship will never work. You’ll keep trying to get back with your ex and they’ll keep trying to get back with you – despite the new flame, media backlash or two kids. Since you’re still so hung up on this past relationship, the new flame will never get the proper attention they deserve. You’ll end up hurting him/her and maybe even eventually go back to the ex your hung up on.
IT’S NORMAL TO COPE IN UNHEALTHY WAYS. Rihanna’s been called everything but a child of God for her Twitter outspokenness towards rude commenters, alleged relations with multiple stars, and other seemingly wild behavior. Any psychologist worth their salt will tell you these are typical behaviors for abuse victims and people experiencing loss. Rihanna’s post “incident” actions are a great relatable reference for discussion in psychology class.
ONE MISTAKE CANCELS OUT 100 TRIUMPHS. Michael Jackson has 13 Grammys, more AMAs than any other artist and the best-selling album of all time, but when he died in 2009 people STILL remembered him as a child molester – despite never being found guilty of those accusations. It boggles my mind that Chris Brown actually thought he would go on that Good Morning America interview and not have to answer questions about “the incident” after only a year. Unfortunately, the public is not quick to forget about any scandal they can connect to your name. You can do 100 great things but the second you make one decision that’s socially unacceptable it trumps EVERYTHING else you’ve ever done. Just ask Nelly.
YOU TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT YOU. The recent social media rants from both ladies involved with Chris Brown seem to suggest neither is too happy with Brown’s relationship with the other woman. So how does he get away with allegedly dating both even though the ladies clearly aren’t happy about it? Because they let him. Tabloids have him leaving one lady’s hotel at night, and then cuddled up at a party with the other the next day. Meanwhile, Rihanna and Karreuche exchange subliminal mean messages directed to each other on social media. Their actions – allowing him into their lives knowing he’s still seeing the other, and directing their anger towards the other girl, instead of him are a way to say, “It’s okay for you to do what you want with who you want. I won’t leave you, and I won’t punish you.” Something tells me if they both said “I want nothing to do with you as long as you’re with her,” he’d make a decision quick.
There are a number of other lessons and examples found in the Chrianna story, especially when you include Karreuche Tran in the picture – these are just four major ones. I do hope that young people who keep up with this crazy love triangle are able to learn lessons and avoid some of this drama on their own. More importantly, I hope the three people involved in this real life novella can sort things out before they ruin their personal and professional lives any further.